On Relationships

Today I asked myself what kind of relationships I truly want in my life - and which ones I wish to consiously create.

For a long time, I reduced the word "relationship" almost exclusively to a romantic bond between a man and a woman. Everything else I dismissed, as if it were secondly or less meaningful. But the more I reflect, the more I realize: there is no universal right or wrong. There is only what nourishes me - and what drains me.

Relationships Are Diverse

I have learned that relationships are not black and white. They are a spectrum, varied in form and intensity. A relationship can be a friendship, a partnership, a spiritual bond, or a shared experience. What matters is not the label, but whether it aligns with my inner compass and brings me well-being.

I can have different kinds of relationships, as long as they are rooted in my principles and contribute to my sense of wholeness. Freedom in relationships does not mean losing myself – it means allowing multiple connections to enrich my life.

One thing is certain: I never want to remain in a toxic relationship – not out of fear, not out of habit, and not out of attachment. Life is too short to endure what harms me. Letting go may hurt, but it opens space for new, nourishing connections that always arrive at the right time.

What Kind of Relationships Do I Long For?

• A romantic partnership based on trust, loyalty, and mutual support. A relationship where intimacy – both physical and emotional – is natural. A bond where we are present for each other, especially in moments of vulnerability.

• A friendship full of joy, where I can laugh, play, and celebrate life under the sun. A relationship that makes me feel alive.

• A soulful connection, where I can dive deep into conversations about meaning, the universe, humanity, psychology, and philosophy. A bond where we exchange, challenge, and inspire one another – true soulmates.

Of course, it would be wonderful if all these aspects could be found in one person. But my experience tells me that this is rare, perhaps even unrealistic. That is why I can consciously seek different connections with different people. To do so, I must expand my circle, meet new people, and open myself to encounters that might lead to something deeper.

The Art of Meeting New People

The next question for me is: How can I meet the right people and nurture meaningful bonds?

It requires courage, patience, and intention. Encounters happen when I step into spaces where connection is possible – cultural events, courses, travels, professional projects, or even everyday situations.

Here, quality matters more than quantity. I would rather have fewer, genuine connections that bring depth and warmth than many shallow ones. Real relationships grow where I am willing to open up, be vulnerable, and truly see the other person.

The Most Important Relationship: With Myself

Above all, there is one relationship that defines all others – the relationship with myself.

If I do not respect myself, enjoy my own company, take responsibility for myself, explore and accept who I am – how can I expect to build healthy relationships with others?

I want to:

• Accept myself, with both strengths and flaws.

• Laugh with myself and find joy in my own company.

• Care for myself the way I care for others.

• Explore my inner world and discover new sides of me.

• Give myself the love I wish to receive from others.

And if no one is there to hold me – then I will hold myself. 💙

Conclusion

Relationships are what carry life – but they always begin with ourselves.

• A romantic bond can bring security.

• A friendship can bring joy.

• A soul connection can expand our thinking.

But only when my relationship with myself is balanced can all these outer connections truly flourish. In the end, every relationship with another is a reflection of how deeply I am connected with myself.

For me, relationships mean diversity – but their foundation is always the love I cultivate for myself.